We've all been there. Whether it is a celebrity or your best mate, at some point you have been jealous of another girl for all the wrong reasons.
I struggle with envy all the time, as I'm an extremely insecure person, and this is how I have chosen to cope.
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Not so long ago, I had a couple of girls wanting to start a fight with me because of the way I was looking at one of them. Having to explain to her that it was actually because I loved the colour of her hair and the shoes she was wearing was a little weird. So do be careful with your girl creeping.
But you know you have done it. Have you ever gone out shopping and thought
"what would so-and-so wear?"
That's girl envy. You wish you had their style, their hair, their confidence, or whatever it is about them that you just can't resist wishing was an aspect of you. Now, I've looked back at some of the things I bought because a friend at college wore it and now I think what the fuck was going through my brain, this looks stupid and isn't me. But unfortunately, it's unavoidable.
But then, you can also be jealous of someone for the things they have. I remember a friend at school, she had loads of money, an older boyfriend and I dreamed for her life. She just looked like she had all her shit together. Now, she looks unhappy and lonely. But at the time, being like her was just at the utmost importance to me, although I knew that I never could because I never had any money or the confidence to talk to a boy even the same age as me.
As much as none of us like to admit it, we do get jealous and envy the people we meet. Sometimes it can be for the silliest of reasons, like they have smaller feet and you would dream of having size 4's (genuinely a reason why someone I knew didn't like me. crazy right?).
I've done it. There's a girl in one of my classes at uni that I've decided I don't like, without ever having spoken to her, purely on the fact that her makeup always looks perfect and her dress sense is amazing.
Jealousy is something that happens, and as much as some people claim they don't envy people, they are lying. I bet they are the first to go into the hair dressers with a celebs picture and ask for it. It's just something you have to embrace.
Take those jealous feelings and turn them into a positive improvement.
You envy that girls bum? Start up at the gym, do those squats!!
You wish you had hair like hers? ask her how she does it, get her to show you or recommend her hairdressers.
You wish you had boobs that big? Not much you can do there. Just convince yourself they are fake.
In my case of the girl at uni
I have since sparked up a convo with her, asking where she gets bits from (mainly Topshop, surprise surprise!).
And as silly as it sounds, I may have stared one seminar and tried out her makeup look at home.
Envy doesn't always have to lead to you hating yourself, use it to improve and be happy!
I do like getting all personal, don't I?
Becky xo
